Friday, May 02, 2008

You Always Get It Back

I'm returning from a week-long Conference in Phoenix where I was assisting at a Life Coach Training Foundations Course for the Adler School of Professional Coaching. It was a Foundations Course for coaches from all over the world. (Hello to Mary, Murray from New Zealand, and Margie from the East Coast!)

Anyway - it was a phenomenal week, and the most amazing thing is I learn new things every time I revisit old topics, trainings and opportunities. In fact - sometimes it's as if the material is brand new.

This time, I learned throughout the week (and some personal coaching) that I might have a purpose, and that identifying a "purpose" in ones' life can be a real pain in the UNOWUT if you're not ready to accept responsibility for what comes with identifying it.

Sometimes it's just a gift we get, a passion we have, a talent, a desire, or the way the stars align. Sometimes we have to work for it and name it; sometimes we wish for something to be our purpose; and sometimes we just wonder what it is. And all of that is okay. We don't always have to identify what it is or even know that we have one. And you know what else? Purpose can change along the way, so once you find it, don't hang on too tight.

Fr me, it's a nagging item on my "to put on the to do" list. Although I've made a lot of great changes and accomplished a lot of things I've wanted to, there are some nagging un-done things are still lingering and haunting me. And they're the same ones they've been for a while. They're the ones that haven't even made it from the "to do" list to the "being done" list.

So what is my block? Why do I think of a million things to do to stay busy, but still have such a hard time settling in and accepting that I have a purpose that I'm neglecting? Why do any of us procrastinate, make busy-work and ignore our gifts? Why do we react instead of create? It's not that hard to figure out, really. What I want to do and need to do to is going to be hard! And I might suck at it, and I'm going to do it anyway. Like it or not. Because I have to. And then I'm going to try really hard not be attached to the outcome and just LET.....IT.....GO!!!

3 comments:

ListPlanIt said...

To do lists can be daunting, but on the other hand, how would accomplish in life without them? I guess the trick is to view them as a guide and not always as a demand. We women are prone to guilt anyway. It is too bad we have to feel guilty about good, but incomplete intentions.

Jen
http://www.listplanit.com

JimQ said...

Your title about we always get it back reminded me how we should always be giving, whether we're a life coach or not, because what we give always comes back to us in abundance. Jim www.LifeCoachBuzz.com

www.directionslifecoaching.com said...

I found this article SO interesting. Those things that we try hardest to avoid doing are frequently the ones we really need to do, the important ones that we have strong feelings about. We can learn a lot about ourselves when we consider why we avoid applying for that job taking that class, or contacting that new person. As you say, those nagging thoughts keep these things on the forefront until they are dealt with in some way. This process is a repetitive trigger to move us forward. It is especially interesting to me that the ones we most try to avoid are the gifts and/or opportunities. Is this fear of failure, fear of success or fear of changing the status quo? Nancy Jacobson